Give time - Time to yourself and to your ex-beau. Time is the best healer of all.
Cool down, sit quietly and think in retrospect. Where, when and how did your relationship go sour? What all could be done to repair it and how to go about it.
There is no use playing the blame game. It could have been anyone’s fault, but at the moment it’s you who wants her ex back, and so it’s you, who has to make all the efforts.
Don’t hurry and spoil the situation any further. Calmly and sensibly plan out your strategy and imply it accordingly. Once the initial hurt, anger and disappointment settles down review the whole scenario
without being judgmental.
Relax and think cool headedly. Was this breakup just a spur of moment action or else things have been boiling up for a long time and both of you have been ignoring it.
Take a day away from all your problems and chill out. One can always think rationally with clear head. Meantime, give your boyfriend also time to reconsider.
He must also be equally emotionally drained out with this breakup and needs as much time and space as you to think about the future. You never know given time he might also want you back in his life as badly as you want to be a part of his. After a day or two call him up and invite him over casually just for a cup of coffee.
Sit down and talk like two responsible adults, discuss the situation and its repercussions. Make clear to him that you would like a second chance with him and needs more time with him to
understand him better.
Make a pact, to act sensibly and start your second innings being just good friends with no expectations from either side. You will realize given this extra time to work on your relationship and that too without any responsibilities and burden being constantly there at the back of your mind, will make you appreciate each other more.
Work on it gradually and take each day as it comes. Don’t expect an overnight magic, but at the same time don’t leave it for too long. Remember you have to have your boyfriend back in a week’s time and that also whole heartedly without it being a compromise on either of your part. Take a break from your hectic life and both of you go out on a holiday.
Discuss each other’s shortcomings as well as good points. Give a chance to understand each other. Concentrate on making your relationship work well, the second time. Promise not to be impatient and short tempered. If anything comes up which either of you don’t like, calm down, give yourself some time and think how to sort it out.
Don’t take any instant actions. Discuss your problems amongst yourself rationally. Give equal weightage to each other’s opinion. Work as a team.
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