One most basic rule to hold on to your boy friend is, never to underestimate yourself. You alone are not to be blamed for the breakup.
Have faith and trust in your capabilities to make a relationship work. There can be hundred and one reason for why he left you. It’s not necessary it was due to some fault of yours.
There could have been some misunderstanding on his part or else, he might have been, as it is looking out for some excuse to end this relationship.
Be strong rock and salvage the situation. Try to bridge the gap that has distanced you for him. Go through the incidences of the past two months.
Make notes of all the issues that have led to a spat amongst you (even the little tiny ones). Note down all the habits of yours that he doesn’t like.
Have you been because of your having low esteem in your own self, over protective? Have your actions been suffocating him in the relationship? Have you in your desperation to hold on to him not being giving him enough space to breath? Does it make you feel insecure even if he looks up to any other girl?
Change yourself. Have faith in your boyfriend and in yourself. Loosen up a bit. Don’t underestimate your worth.
He won’t run away, if given a little freedom. He is yours to keep. Don’t show your desperation. Don’t stalk him day and night (it just doesn’t have to be physically, even mentally release him). Value yourself.
How do you expect others to appreciate you when you yourself underrate yourself? Make him aware of what he is losing out on by talking out of this relationship. You can achieve whatever you set your mind on.
Just have faith in yourself. If you really want him back don’t be afraid in using any mode or tool possible in reaching your target. It can be your friend, your family or your common acquaintance. Let them be your voice.
Don’t blow your own trumpet, but let it spread through words of mouth. If you have enough belief in yourself, others will also go out of the way to support you in your cause. But first and foremost it’s you and only you who can make any real difference in your relationship. For that you must have a specific idea about how and why the things went sour.
Whose fault was it, is very immaterial, and because it’s not an issue of egos what involved here is your heart. If you have to bend down a little to get back your lost love, let it be.
Confront him directly. Don’t be aggressive, just sit and work out how things can be mended. Talk like adults, don’t cry and cling to him, which would make him run away even further. Never show him your desperation.
There has to be some quality or qualities of yours that attracted him to you in the first place. Focus and highlight on those qualities. Bring his attention to them and subtly make him realize your worth. Don’t be melodramatic but be firm and specific in your approach. You know you can do it.
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