To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. At times to serve your purpose you have to do things the other way round. Play a reverse game.
Don’t make, or at least don’t let him realize, that he is the centre of your universe. Broaden your sphere. Involve yourself into other activities.
Give equal importance to your friends and family as to his. Men are generally more attracted to interesting, outgoing, and extrovert women who are competent enough in themselves, rather than the dependent, submissive ones. Play a bit hard to get. Don’t let him trample all over you by lying down as a carpet for him to step over.
Try to gain his respect by both of you being on equal footing. Make intelligent conversations so as to hold his interest for a longer time. Don’t be just frivolous and flamboyant. Such a life has a very short span. Be a vivid reader. Increase your horizon. You should be able to talk on varied topics and should be able to mingle up with all sort of groups.
You stop doing the running, let him run after you. Show some attitude. Let him be the hunter instead of being hunted. Again as it has been repeatedly mentioned, be subtle in your approach. Don’t be aggressive in your action.
Catching a boy friend is not the only purpose of this whole exercise. You have to maintain a healthy relationship with him. Ensure you are involved in some other activities also apart from the ones which
are common to both of you. It would give you a separate exclusive entity of yours without you always being dependent on him for making your presence known.
Mark your existence with your individuality. Don’t suffocate each other by keeping 24/7 vigilance. Keep yourself involved constructively elsewhere also and give breathing space to each other.
Don’t let him have the feeling that your life has come to a standstill because of him. Your partner should be a very important part of your life but not your whole life. Relish and enjoy your relationship rather than turning it into a nightmare.
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