Reverse your breakup by making a genuine effort of understanding what makes your man tick.
There has to be a certain reason for his walkout. Understand his psychology. It would make it simpler and easier for you to work on your patch up if you knew why he did, what he did.
Everyone has its own way to approach his life. What is right for you might be wrong for him. His priorities in life might differ from yours. Don’t see everything from your angle only. For a change peep into his soul and see the world as he sees it. Your perception for him might take a somersault.
There might be certain trait of yours that has been bothering him for some time and breaking up from you could have been the only easy way out for him.
There is no good or bad person. Everyone has their shortcomings as well as their positive points. Concentrate on the positive ones and try to ignore the shortcomings. Never make the mistake of changing
a person.
Nothing irritates a man more than a nagging or interfering girlfriend or wife. If you want him back in your life it should clear in your mind that you are accepting him the way he is. Welcome him back along with his negative aspects.
Change your outlook. Show more empathy towards him. Be more tolerant and more patient. If both of you have any argument, end it, while it is still on a healthy stage.
Don’t make it your ego to always win and have an upper hand. In love there is no winner or no loser.
What is the point of winning an argument if ultimately it leads to losing your boy friend? If having the last word gives him the satisfaction, let him have it. There are various other ways of putting your word across or to get what you want done rather than getting into spat of words.
Be subtle in your approach. If there is something that you want to do, for instance, going out for your friend’s party or some weekend outings with your friends and you want him to come along, but at the same time you know he will be reluctant to go out with your friends, be a little manipulative.
Either include some of his friends also in your excursion or mention your plans to him in such a way, so that he doesn’t get the feeling of being pressurized into doing something against his wishes. In fact, try to make it sound, as if the plan was initially his. Man has a big ego, bigger than life and it needs frequent pumping.
Don’t ever boast about your achievements in front of him or his friends. Firstly, it loses its impact and secondly, more important it turns off a man. Be modest and humble. You would get more credentials that ways, rather than by singing your own praises. Man doesn’t like loud brash girlfriends. Be soft spoken and gentle. You are sure to earn back his love and respect faster that ways.
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